It is completely impossible for you to be the husband you wife needs you to be…
I see so many guys who are married or soon to be and they are destined for failure.
It won’t be through an affair.
It won’t happen because of neglect or abuse.
They’re not cheaters.
They’re not bad providers.
What I see today is that men are not prayer warriors.
We have this illusion that men are inherently capable of being everything a wife needs him to be. There’s a couple lies found in this. First Ladies, let me pop that balloon by saying, he’s not perfect and is never going to be. The perfection you are looking for in your relationship can only be found in Jesus.
The only Savior you are going to find in your life is in Christ. Stop making your husband become your everything, holding him to a standard of excellence that he can never complete in you.
Jesus came to die so that you could be saved and safe, your husband can never compete with that!
Guys, I want to give you some very powerful marriage enhancing material today. It’s that magic pill you are looking for to make your marriage wild again.
Are you interested?
Shout it louder!
I SAID, ARE YOU INTERESTED?
Paul wrote in Ephesians 5,
“Husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw. Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self.” Ephesians 5:25-28 TPT
There are a lot of things in life that I have discovered I am incapable of. How about you, what do you suck at? Be honest with yourself. If you’re anything like me, there’s a lot of things that you would love to think you excel at but you just don’t.
In my mind, I am incredible at building. I can fix, literally, anything.
Some of you, it’s all about sports. You can visualize yourself as an incredible QB. When it comes to basketball, you are MJ.
But reality is, most things I try to fix, end up needing to be “re-fixed”.
And when it comes to your being a QB, your spiral just isn’t quite that awesome and Tom Brady is not really that nervous about your assuming his position.
The same thing is true when it comes to your marriage. Your best decision would be today, to swallow this magic pill of prayer and decide that every day you are going to pray asking God to love your wife through you.
It’s amazing what can happen when you begin to do this. There’s something that visibly changes in your composure.
I remember the first time I tried this, Crystal, my wife, asked me what I was doing that was making things so different. I told her that I was praying those words. She can now point out the days that I’ve prayed that prayer….and the days that I have not.
I can tell you this bro. The marriage you have right now, is the marriage that God intends for you to keep. She’s not flawed, you’re just not praying and becoming the husband/leader God intended for you to be.
Don’t get hung up on the “what if’s” and “I don’t know how’s”, all you need to worry about today is that simple prayer, “God, love her through me today.”
Start praying those words everyday, every morning when you wake up, utter those words before you get out of bed. Before you know it, that will be the start of longer sentences and paragraphs you are praying about your wife. You’ll start praying for her protection. You’ll pray that God will guard her heart and mind as she wrestles through the incredible difficulties of being a mom, a wife, an employee(r), and the thousand other things that come rushing at her mind.
And you’ll notice that you’ve become incredibly different also. You’ll find a genuine concern over her that you’ve not seen before. And it’s all because God is now loving this woman through you with a love that is so far beyond your capacity.
It’s time to fill your prescription of this magic pill.