Biblical Living, Experience, Family, Lessons for my crew

What have we learned?

Months into this strange season we are living right now, and we’ve gotten far enough to track some metrics on our progress. These are peculiar days we are living! Who’s going to argue with me on that?

When in your imagination did you ever think you’d see a fight over toilet paper in a grocery store?

When in your thinking did you ever imagine you’d be told by the government that you should not leave your home for any reason unless absolutely necessary!?

How about being told to wear a medical mask everywhere you go and in every interaction with people. How many places have you see where they put info stickers on their entrances indicating to hats, glasses or MASKS that now have to go back and change all those indications!? And how have robberies not spiked in the process because of everyone now sporting masks?

Everything is different and nothing is normal. But what have we learned?

We cannot allow this time and season to escape us without noting something…a thousand things, we’ve learned through it.

This really draws my mind to the really familiar passage from Ecclesiastes 3 where the author, presumably King Solomon, wrote about there being a time for everything we endure in life. We live life in seasons. Every year is broken into seasons. Our lifetime can also be broken into seasons, think about it. We think in terms of years, days, months, hours, minutes, but what if there is something larger at work with less defined and structured parameters?

The season of parenting

The season of honeymooning

The season of sickness

The season of having teens

The season of being a teen

The season of just married

The season of being married for decades

The season of career

The season of retirement

The season of education

The season of depression

The terrible two’s (you know, the years between 2 and 22)

The season of corona

Everyone of these seasons comes with a gift of learning. We can either learn something and grow from it, or we can try to kick our feet up and close off the world until it passes. Ironically, we see a great number of people trying to do that every thing with this season of Corona. They do the same with seasons they don’t know what do to with.

How many people have you seen that are just trying to make it through?

They’re trying desperately to make it through early parenting.

Make it through parenting a teen.

Make it through the career or job they currently have

Make it through the marriage

The problem is making it through is the un-communicated mirage that believes once we’re through, it’ll be better.

As I stick a pin to your glitter filled balloon, don’t hate me on the other side.

IT’S NOT GOING TO BE BETTER!

The only thing you’re going to receive on the other side, besides trying desperately to vacuum all that glitter, is bitterness from having an expectation that could never be realized.

Can I be so bold to tell you that you did this to yourself!?

Adjust your expectations

Sink yourself into the season you are in and own it like a boss.

I’m going to say something ridiculously profound utterly simple. You ready?!

No one knows how to get through the season they are going through until they’ve gone through it.

No one knows how to get through the season they are going through until they've gone through it Click To Tweet

No one in our generation has lived through a pandemic like this. NO ONE.

And honestly, even if they did, the one they would have gone through previously would have been drastically different.

We have go to drop the victim lifestyle and mindset that we are trying to adopt because of the season.

And honestly, that applies to every season of life you are blessed to experience.

Every season has its own blessings.

Every season.

Even the terrible ones.

It’s only through terrible seasons are you given the beauty and blessing of seeing the tremendous come through the terrible

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Where is Your Faith!?

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It was going to be a brief week. Being that school was going to start soon, I had some plans I wanted to do with the kids, namely get the boat back on the water, just me and them. We also had Austin’s orientation that was at a very strange time, Thursday morning for 2 hours. Because he’s making the entrance into middle school, we wanted to really take some time with him and make this transition thinking it was going to be rough/tough for him.

I was surprised when my boss texted me early on Monday saying that he needed to meet with me about something that day. Those kinds of texts always send my mind reeling with possible content.

Am I in trouble?

Lessons for my crew

The Story of Our First Reno

Over the better part of 2019, our family embarked on a new and exciting journey that we’ve wanted to do for a lot of years. We never thought it would actually be a possibility because of the financial implications of purchasing a second property, but we figured out a way and I hope that maybe I can teach and inspire someone else to do the same thing.

Lessons for my crew, Purpose

We’re gonna be okay

I know today seems so hard. Forgive me, but it might get worse. We really have no clue, but what I do know and understand is that the Light of the Church shines brightest when the problems of the entire world seem darkest. I think I can speak for both of us when I say that, It looks pretty dark outside right now.

What are we supposed to do?

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Learning the Hard Way

Our first house. Can you remember your first house? Maybe not the one you first lived in, but the first one you owned and really made your own. You could choose all the paint colors and maybe a few decorative tweaks you wanted to make as you moved into your first real home!?

I can remember those days and the little house that Crystal and I fell in love with. We didn’t think we would be able to buy it, we’d never done this before and it was all so exciting and scary at the same time.
You know they say this is the biggest financial decision of your life- so don’t screw it up!

I remember how excited we were when we started painting through every room of that house making it our own. We didn’t have much residual money at the time so we couldn’t afford to do any more than just paint, but we had so many aspirations of what we’d eventually make this home into.

One of the biggest things we wanted to do was a simple upgrade the kitchen oven.

That doesn’t sound that hard. Not that big of a deal at all really.

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Lessons for my Crew- Hard Work

Work hard boys. There’s nothing more valueable than the beauty of scared hands.

Learn to fix thing that are difficult to figure out. It will make you want to pull your hair out and cause bruised and bloody knuckles but when you’re finished, you’ll look at your hard work with admiration and accomplishment in your eyes.

Some of the proudest moments of my life are wrapped around projects of complexity. Things that stood taller, felt stronger, and were heavier than I could do on my own.

Don’t shy away from things that are too tough for you. You must not resort to defeat because a thing is too confusing. You have what it takes to figure it out. You’re smart enough, your strong enough, the only thing that you must decide is that you are resilient enough!

The strength of your mind is the most resilient power you possess. Only you are able to allow someone to defeat the power of your mind.
There will always be someone stronger than you.
There will always be someone smarter than you.
There will aways be someone wealthier than you.

The only thing they don’t have on you, is the power of what you don’t tell them. Hold fast the power of your determination. Let them think you’re defeated, only to show them later on, they had no effect on your resilience.

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You’re Worth More than You Think You Are!

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How much time do you spend looking in a mirror?

That can vary with every person, can’t it?

I spend next to no time in front of a mirror, whereas my wife, is tied up there for a while longer! My daughter, Taylor, still more than that. There is just this sense of perfection that needs to be finished, and clearly, that takes time.

It’s one thing to get ready in front of a mirror, but have you ever just looked at yourself in mirror? What do you see?

Clearly, a reflection. That’s what you see, a representation of yourself.

People don’t typically look at themselves, they look for the flaws they can fix, do what they can, and then move on.

Biblical Living, Lessons for my crew

Xbox Chore Charts and 1Kings 12

the actual routine chart we used for the kids. Super colorful so no way to blend in!

Do you ever tire of having to tell your kids the same thing over and over AND OVER again?

It seems that no matter how often we tell them, they still must be reminded every morning to brush their teeth, make their beds, put away their pj’s and get ready for school.

I fully believe that if we didn’t do this same ritual everyday, they would never do any of it. It’s almost like they think, if I’m just quiet and don’t cause a disturbance, then maybe mom and dad will forget we have to go to school today and we’ll be able to play Xbox all day!