Biblical Living, Experience, Family, Lessons for my crew

What have we learned?

Months into this strange season we are living right now, and we’ve gotten far enough to track some metrics on our progress. These are peculiar days we are living! Who’s going to argue with me on that?

When in your imagination did you ever think you’d see a fight over toilet paper in a grocery store?

When in your thinking did you ever imagine you’d be told by the government that you should not leave your home for any reason unless absolutely necessary!?

How about being told to wear a medical mask everywhere you go and in every interaction with people. How many places have you see where they put info stickers on their entrances indicating to hats, glasses or MASKS that now have to go back and change all those indications!? And how have robberies not spiked in the process because of everyone now sporting masks?

Everything is different and nothing is normal. But what have we learned?

We cannot allow this time and season to escape us without noting something…a thousand things, we’ve learned through it.

This really draws my mind to the really familiar passage from Ecclesiastes 3 where the author, presumably King Solomon, wrote about there being a time for everything we endure in life. We live life in seasons. Every year is broken into seasons. Our lifetime can also be broken into seasons, think about it. We think in terms of years, days, months, hours, minutes, but what if there is something larger at work with less defined and structured parameters?

The season of parenting

The season of honeymooning

The season of sickness

The season of having teens

The season of being a teen

The season of just married

The season of being married for decades

The season of career

The season of retirement

The season of education

The season of depression

The terrible two’s (you know, the years between 2 and 22)

The season of corona

Everyone of these seasons comes with a gift of learning. We can either learn something and grow from it, or we can try to kick our feet up and close off the world until it passes. Ironically, we see a great number of people trying to do that every thing with this season of Corona. They do the same with seasons they don’t know what do to with.

How many people have you seen that are just trying to make it through?

They’re trying desperately to make it through early parenting.

Make it through parenting a teen.

Make it through the career or job they currently have

Make it through the marriage

The problem is making it through is the un-communicated mirage that believes once we’re through, it’ll be better.

As I stick a pin to your glitter filled balloon, don’t hate me on the other side.

IT’S NOT GOING TO BE BETTER!

The only thing you’re going to receive on the other side, besides trying desperately to vacuum all that glitter, is bitterness from having an expectation that could never be realized.

Can I be so bold to tell you that you did this to yourself!?

Adjust your expectations

Sink yourself into the season you are in and own it like a boss.

I’m going to say something ridiculously profound utterly simple. You ready?!

No one knows how to get through the season they are going through until they’ve gone through it.

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No one in our generation has lived through a pandemic like this. NO ONE.

And honestly, even if they did, the one they would have gone through previously would have been drastically different.

We have go to drop the victim lifestyle and mindset that we are trying to adopt because of the season.

And honestly, that applies to every season of life you are blessed to experience.

Every season has its own blessings.

Every season.

Even the terrible ones.

It’s only through terrible seasons are you given the beauty and blessing of seeing the tremendous come through the terrible

Purpose

Break the Resistance

I’m in a funk today. Can’t break out of it. I know what it takes to break free, but I don’t want to do it. Too lazy. Uninspired. Indifferent. I just don’t care today. Besides that, I’m tired. The reason I’m tired is because I haven’t broken free from the resistance. All I have to do is look the hard ugly image of resistance in the face and tell it to get off. Man that’s hard to do.

Family, Lessons for my crew

Lessons for my Crew- Hard Work

Work hard boys. There’s nothing more valueable than the beauty of scared hands.

Learn to fix thing that are difficult to figure out. It will make you want to pull your hair out and cause bruised and bloody knuckles but when you’re finished, you’ll look at your hard work with admiration and accomplishment in your eyes.

Some of the proudest moments of my life are wrapped around projects of complexity. Things that stood taller, felt stronger, and were heavier than I could do on my own.

Don’t shy away from things that are too tough for you. You must not resort to defeat because a thing is too confusing. You have what it takes to figure it out. You’re smart enough, your strong enough, the only thing that you must decide is that you are resilient enough!

The strength of your mind is the most resilient power you possess. Only you are able to allow someone to defeat the power of your mind.
There will always be someone stronger than you.
There will always be someone smarter than you.
There will aways be someone wealthier than you.

The only thing they don’t have on you, is the power of what you don’t tell them. Hold fast the power of your determination. Let them think you’re defeated, only to show them later on, they had no effect on your resilience.

Biblical Living

Yes, I Can! (Maybe)

Do I have to be alive? Where is my coffee!

Three little words that literally define the outcome of your day. Your very mindset about life can be contained in those words.

Think about how many times you say No I Can’t. Maybe it’s not even a thought of the words you say but the action you take. It’s not that you are saying “no” but that you are living and fleshing it out.

It’s in your mind alone that defines what you can and cannot do. And God so created you with incredible stamina to be able to endure far more than you think you are capable of.

Paul wrote in Ephesians 6:10, …”God is strong and he wants you strong.” We carry with us the DNA of God because we are created in his image. That means we are stronger than we think we are.

The next time those words come across your mind, you know like a news flash right before you speak them, consider just how strong God created you to be. Stronger than you think.

“Yes, I can.” Say that. NO really, Say it. Speak that truth over your life today. YES, I CAN. Use that as an anthem to navigate your day today.

My little girl woke up yesterday, and as she does every day, yelled in her low gravely wake up voice- MOMMA. We minimized that for few minutes thinking she would go back to sleep, but no. I walked in to get her and found that she had gotten sick at some point during the night and with throw up all over her, I declared again, YES I CAN. No, I don’t really want to but YES, I CAN!

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Are you fighting Depression?

2007, one of the best years of our lives. Also one of the most difficult we’ve ever faced before. Crystal was pregnant with our son Austin. We were finishing up the deputation part of our missions career. We’d seen God moving personally in so many ways. We had our hiccups but for the most part, we were blessed, encouraged and on our way to Latin American life as we believed God was directing us to. First stop, San Jose, Costa Rica: A tropical paradise in the middle of a Spanish jungle. It would be the place where we’d learn Spanish and learn our first steps in missionary life. It would also be the place where our son would be born and little did we know, it would be the location of one of the most severe experiences with depression we would face to that point in our lives.

We didn’t know anything about depression. We were naive enough to think that it only happened to people who were weak or didn’t have a strong enough faith to get through it. We’d wrongly assumed that with enough prayer and belief, people who faced depression should be able to get through anything.

The reality is that depression has the power to seriously offset your life. It’s not something you can plan to avoid or even prevent.

It is an illness and it needs to be treated as such. We need to look at it the same as we would for a broken bone, a cold or the flu. It’s something that needs specific and intentional focus to be able to handle.

So much of our world is in a depressed state.

Having just gone through a sermon series focus on the book of Ecclesiastes, I think of Solomon’s words when he declared that “there is nothing new under the sun.” I always struggled with that thought because he lived in a day when so many things were utterly different. It finally make sense when I realized he wasn’t specifically talking about things but more lifestyles and situations.

Our world is very weary.

Our family has been through so many different seasons of life. One season I can recall was when we seemed to be coward in a corner simply waiting for the next blow to come. Whether it was medical, financial, personal or other, we knew it wouldn’t be long before something else came to cripple us. It put us in a mentality of depression. We needed help!

Knowing this, I wanted to offer you a method of hope today.

You were not meant to process through your life alone. You never were. You are not created for complete independence. You were designed to be completely dependent on an amazing God and the people he places in your life. You are for them and they are for you.

Know this, I am not a licensed counselor, but I care enough about you to at least tell you some of what I’ve learned over the years when it comes to depression. So throughout this week, we’re going to focus on this issue and we’re going walk through it together.